In part one of this three-part article, we discussed stress and its challenges. If you have not yet read part one, please hop over there now. In part two, we dove into developing challenges for yourself, commanding the challenging attitude and developing commitment. Today we will conclude with the commitment attitude, commanding the controlling attitude, and I’ll give you some additional resources to help manage the stress in your life.
When you command the commitment attitude
- You’ll engage fully in your tasks, despite severe changes, feeling important and worthwhile.
- You’ll become less stressed, more energized and motivated, realizing your important role and positive impact on others.
- You’ll be steadfast to finding meaningful purpose in life.
- You’ll give activities your best effort and have a curiosity about what you’re doing instead of a feeling of detachment or isolation.
- Going through life with little direction, you’ll not just survive, you’ll excel.
Nevertheless, don’t over-commit yourself. You want to allow time for other happenings around you, have fun and socialize with family and friends.
- Think through what’s stressing you out an address that point you can influence, presently, to help you overcome that adversity. “If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present.” – Lao Tzu
- How often have you wished for more hours in the day? Go through your schedule and check out what’s on your plate. Discern the “should” from the “must.” Eliminate or move to the bottom what’s not necessary. Simply put, prioritize your schedule.
- Try to dominate the moment. Let’s say, you’re a cookie monster wanting to control your cravings. Do you start at the store? Definitely. When you don’t take those cookies home, fat chance, you’ll eat them.
- Defragment your mind and center yourself on positive thoughts. Train your mind to perceive the good in things. Instead of complaining because the rose bush has thorns, rejoice because it has roses.
- Particular past events may be unkind. Let bygones be bygones. Just forgive, forget and move forward. The hard part is not the “letting go,” but the “starting over.”
When you command the controlling attitude
- You’ll feel in control of your destiny and in charge of your life versus being a victim of circumstances.
- You’ll have a realistic perception of changing the things you can and letting go of stuff you can’t.
- You’ll be able to curb your negative impulses, overcome obsessions, fears and all kinds of unseemly behavior, thus improve your health.
- You’ll develop patience and tolerance to people around you, thus improve your relationships.
- Even when your actions don’t lead to success, you feel a sense of triumph knowing that you took action.
Now, you must lock the whole caboodle together and turn it into habits. These attitudes cannot stick nor work if they’re not habits – hard to do but worthwhile.
Of course, gaining control over your habits is easier said than done.
There’s no shortcut to conquering your habits. It’s always going to take discipline and hard work. But there’s one approach that can steer you to a greater success rate: the awareness that consistency (a 4th C) is the mechanism for developing new habits. 6)
Time and effort are crucial for developing beneficial habits. But once manifested, they become exceptionally hard to break, which is great because they’ll stick around forever.
And with good, steady habits, who needs goals?
Before I close, I’d like to stress one point.
We all make mistakes. That’s why we’re human. Learn from them and take action. If there’s no action to take, just let go and keep going. Above all, don’t lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and others.” – Fyodor Dostoyevsky
What do you think about stress in general? Do you agree with the concept of the three C’s? Is there anything you’d like to add?
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